In my Humble Opinion

Oscar Wilde once said that, "Experience is one thing you can't get for nothing." And you know what? He was right. The whole point of an experience is to take something away from it and be all the wiser. In my humble opinion, we need to stop teaching woman to be weak females.

I couldn't tell you the countless times that I have listened to girl friends of mine cry and complain about their guy situations. It always starts out with some guy that is treating them badly in some way. He doesn't call. He's unavailable. He's playing games (this one's my personal fave). Enough already! We need to be counting our blessings, looking at the BIG picture and moving on. Being aware of these red flag kind of "men" is key! There is no use in burying your head in the sand and pretending that the treatment is "good enough" and "only gets to us sometimes".

Over the period of our lives, girls are constantly exposed to countless portrayals of weak females. Woman in our television shows, in our movies, sometimes even in our own lives who rely on these time-warn, antiquated roles that women are supposed to play. Always roles that involve females as swooning, damsels in distress who couldn't see their way out of a paper bag, much less understand why the men in her life treat her poorly or lets face it, like she's not worth it.

It comes down to self respect. And squarely from self respect comes self esteem. Enough self esteem say to drop a dead beat boyfriend? Or shoo away any wishy-washy suitors only interested in mind games, sex, or both? I'd like to think so. In the famous words of notorious play boy Tucker Max, guys will treat you the in exactly the manner you allow them too.

Tucker states it ever so plainly. "Ladies, let me give you some advice. You can throw all your stupid fucking chick-lit, self-help, why-doesn't-he-love-me books out, because this is all you need to know: Men will treat you the way you let them. There is no such thing as "deserving" respect; you get what you demand from people.. if you demand respect, he will either respect you or he won't associate with you. It really is that simple."

Girls these days have really go to know that knowing their worth is one of the most valuable pieces of knowledge one can possess. To be able to be confident enough to say through your words and actions that, "This is what I want. If you think you can manage to respect that, then I think we can have a good time."

I've grown weary of hearing from friend after friend ( and sometimes random, hurting girls in public restrooms!) that, "Oh their this way because this guy.." and "Oh, well this guy made me like this and that's why.." The point of that experience at its end is for you to have learned a lesson, for better or for worse. It was not for you to be a jaded, bitter, guarded female who either wallows in self-pity or seeks comfort in promiscuous fits of behavior that have become more and more socially acceptable. As much as it won't seem like it in the heat of the situation, you've been given a gift. A life experience that you can now say, "I've grown from that experience in ways I never realized" or "WOW. NEVER AGAIN." Now you know what you like, what you don't like, what you won't allow, and what you want next time around. All the things that don't work out in life, whatever they may be, are only stepping stones to the ones that will!

A great woman named once said, "The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about nothing --- and then marry him.” That woman's name was Cher, and Cher was right. Work on self love, and then find someone who can love you that much. The rest? You shouldn't give two shits to Shynola whether or not they decide to grow up. Whatever it was, it didn't work out. Save your tears and move forward. You've got to have enough chutzpah to let that which does not matter, truly slide.

Ultimately, any self-respecting woman wouldn't want to end up with/waste time with someone who couldn't take the time to get their clever dick out of their own mouth and decide whether or not they like a woman enough or not. So ladies, please, value yourselves as priceless commodities..not just anyone can have you.